I’ve read how people have achieved a lot, do better at their
young age, consistently building their pathway to their life purpose, well
connected to their right partners, and everything that I believe is better than
mine now. This is not about their ‘success’ but about their dark years and how
they managed to stand up and fly after that. Each of these people has a full luggage
of life experiences, competencies, wisdom and values. Then I started to look at
mine.
I wonder how they manage everything, especially their family.
How do they spend their quality time?
These past few weeks I’ve been busy with work and volunteering project. I know I want to do both, I know I have to do those things now in my
age before I have my little new family, which I still have no clue about that. I still want to have a language course, sports, etc. Activities aside from work sometimes consume my family time, I don’t mind as
long as I still have a day each week to spend with my whole family, but this is below my
family expectation.
Things were easy when
I lived alone in Bandung, but like it or not the game has changed now. Daughter should be home at 10 pm, otherwise my
dad and mom can’t sleep well and wake up all night. At this age, in this city,
in my colleagues mind, it might be ridiculous to have this ‘Cinderella’ rule
but it happens. I don’t mind, I share their thoughts about this and I fully
agree with that. The issue is that I can’t explain it well to my colleagues yet.
Mom sometimes demands time more than I can offer. I don’t
mind, I love her so much. I just do not know yet how to explain that my
non-work activities are equally important. Life is more than work that I need
to learn through diverse experiences.
These little burdens should not hamper me to live the life as
I want it to be, I just don’t know yet how to keep it balance, to be happy as a
daughter and a doer. I will not think about the other role I might play in the
future. But I’m pretty sure that if I have a balance in my life now, future
life will be easier. Wish me luck, wish us luck!
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